So this crazy lady I work with...

Background: I work with this lady, Susie, who has an early 20's daughter, Kyra. Now, I am nice to everyone when I first meet them but spend 10 minutes talking to Kyra and you will want to strangle her. First, she has everyone thinking that she is stupid because she says retarded things like "my IQ is 20/20" yeah…REALLY dumb. The thing is if you watch her face when she says stuff she was 2 expressions: #1 when she says something stupid on PURPOSE her eyes with sparkle and she will give a giggle. Like "oh, everyone is paying attention to me". #2 expression when she says something on accident: she will get a deer in the headlights look and not laugh because she knows that everyone is laughing because she is in fact stupid.

Okay, besides that she is one of these super spoiled children and have mommy and daddy so and pay for everything. She flunked out of college that they were paying for, drives around in the car that they pay for, etc. You know where this goes. She DEMANDS to have those freaking $250 purses and other expensive things. She recently got engaged (to a guy that has already cheated on her since the engagement but whatever). Her parents are now taking out either a 2nd or 3rd mortgage on their house to pay for this lavish affair (or so the rumor goes). Her family does not have money and her dad has recently had major surgery but all that matters to Kyra is getting everything she wants. In fact her brother was supposed to go on a trip to Disneyland this week with the band from school but he couldn't. Now, if you ask them it is because he didn't want to go unless his mommy could be a chaperone…whatever! No teenage boy says no for that reason….the real reason is because they couldn't afford to send him when every extra dime they make goes to the pretty-pretty-princess wedding.

So, getting to the point…..a friend of mine recently got married and since she used to work in our office, Susie was invited and brought her daughter with her. They were SO rude at the wedding and I was just in shock. When we returned to work I was so heated that I decided to avoid her for a while thinking that it would be better to ignore her that to blow up. Then she emailed….here is the conversation: (S=Susie M=me any text in green is my comments on her BS which I did not send to her, I added them for the purpose of this blog)

S: I was just wondering what I have done to offend you, because since Mindy’s wedding you haven’t spoken or even looked at me so I know something is wrong because you usually talk to me some.

M: Yes, I am upset with you but instead of just blowing up I decide that I needed to take a step back, look at everything and then discuss it with you. The bottom line is that you and your daughter were very rude at Mindy's wedding. You can say whatever you like but I heard from several people and I viewed many of the behaviors with my own eyes. It is very hard for me to understand why you would go to someone's wedding if you were not there 100% in support of the couple but rather to "scoop out" and "critic" the situation for what? In an attempt to make your daughter's wedding "better"? I think that is a horrible thing to do.

You and I have discussed before that I am not the greatest fan of your daughter but I have always viewed you as two separate people and not held any of my opinions toward her against you, but now I don't know if I can do that after having seen that some of her rude behaviors were obviously either learned from or okay by you. I am aware that Kyra made comments about my wedding basically calling it "cheap". I can deal with what people say about me because quite frankly I don't care. However, for you and her to sit there and pick apart Mindy's wedding disgusted me to no end. Also, I overheard you repeating some of your criticism to people at work the following Monday…what is the point?

I don't know (nor care) how you are paying for Kyra's wedding but let me say that Mindy and AJ did a wonderful job considering that they had NO help financial from family. Their wedding was about them and it showed a lot of their character. Weddings are not about being grand, showy, costly events…they are about the couple and they should be shared with those people that love them and support their decision to make a life together. I think that your motives for attending their wedding were awful and it hurts and upsets me on behalf of two wonderful people.

Well I’m sorry you feel that way, but Kyra and I weren’t rude at all(*cough* bullshit *cough*). I don’t know who you got your information from but when it was only us talking and my husband it would have been hard to hear something (hmmm...hard to hear something...that would mean you DID talk shit and you are wondering how you got caught), when we didn’t talk to anyone else there,but Mindy’s parents and Summer a little (P.S. Summer is the one that told us you were talking shit about what the other guests were wearing, which equals RUDE). We weren’t there just to scope out the wedding, We have known Mindy for a lot longer period than you have and really cared about her marriage. Not one of us criticized her wedding, in fact Kyra loved her cake (because enjoying the cake means you were nice?), so again I don’t know where or who you got information from but they are wrong. (WOW...since I SAW most of it, I am wrong?)

As far as rude behavior, I think the way you were at the wedding was a lot worse than mine or Kyra’s. Kyra has never called your wedding cheap either (uh, yes she did--i fucking HEARD her), she and I both thought it was pretty, but believe who you want that’s up to you. We didn’t pick Mindy’s wedding apart either. There was no critizing at work either, only one person asked about it and that was Janey, and I didn’t respond negatively. (Again I HEARD her telling Janey that she thought the color scheme was off for a barn setting)

Yes, AJ and Mindy did a great job for their wedding and should be very proud of it. WE had no motives again, and to be quite frank with you I don’t know why you or anyone at this office hates or dislikes Kyra so much, she hasn’t done anything to anyone here. Just because of things she might buy is not a good reason, if that’s the case I think you or anyone else would have to not like a lot of other people. Kyra is the one that has heard things behind her back , and don’t think she doesn’t know.

Just stop. The only thing I hate more than rude behavior is lying. I will only address 2 things:

1. As far as rude behavior, I think the way you were at the wedding was a lot worse than mine or Kyra’s.

Are you crazy? Mindy asked me to be part of her wedding in the respect that I was to facilitate things going smoothly. I did everything that she asked of me and more because I care for her. You may have known her longer, but I know her better. If you think having a few drinks and dancing with EVERYONE else is rude behavior I will get you an etiquette book…asking where her servers are for the cake or pointing out how you do or don't think he color scheme works for a barn setting is RUDE.

2. Just because of things she might buy is not a good reason, if that’s the case I think you or anyone else would have to not like a lot of other people.

You obviously did not listen when I talked to you about Kyra. It is not the things she buys…it is the fact that she THINKS the things she buys makes her better than everyone else. Basically, she is shallow. Yes, I said it. That is why I do not like her. The fact that you make reference to other people not liking her either should open your eyes…if numerous people do not like your daughter…maybe it isn't them…maybe its her. Think about it.
I have nothing else to say on the matter.

I will stop after I say this, I hate lying also, and I don’t need an etiquette book, because I wasn’t there when you were drinking or dancing and don’t care if you did or not. (uh...then please point out what I did that you conceived as rude....) We never said anything about her color scheme either, you are getting a lot of wrong info from someone, but I don’t care, because I know what we did and said and it was nothing like you have festered up. (hmmm...my ears are deceiving me?)
Furthermore, Kyra doesn’t think shes better than anyone else, you just think that and I don’t appreciated you calling her shallow (uh, but she is), but I guess I could expect that from you, being the person you are evidently. My eyes are open and there is only one other person (uh no hunny...there is NO ONE that I have ever talked to in this office that likes your SHALLOW daughter) I believe that doesn’t like her which when I consider them, oh well., I just consider the source. And thanks for the name calling of Kyra, I really appreciate it and its hurts deeply, maybe one day when you have children if you do you will understand. I have nothing else to say either, because I haven’t done NOTHING…. (double negative...sounds like you have done something...)

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Thanks for the laugh.

IM GLAD YOU THINK ITS FUNNY BECAUSE I DON’T, BUT SINCE YOU DO THAT TELLS ME A LOT ABOUT YOU………(yes that I find 45+ year-old women that argue with me about their retarded daughters hilarious)

Get over it.

We obviously are not going to agree and it is not worth it to me to keep this up. Seriously, I have better things to do. So, unless it is WORK RELATED, don't email me.

So that was day one. Day two she goes around the office pissed off....so I did the only thing that I thought was befitting...I walked around happy as a clam. She got so mad that when she brought the new orders to our office she slammed them down which caused me to burst out laughing. I mean, she is acting like a 6-year-old....that is funny. Later in the day she had to bring a file directly to me and she threw it on my desk and started to storm out of the room so I said "STOMP STOMP STOMP". I was amused...still am. Call me heartless but I hate BS like this! If you are going to act like an asshole expect people to call you out on it. I am one of those people that will.